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X only communities shouldn't be publicly viewable.
If they're not publicly viewable, how do you expect people to know to look for them? How many communities / subreddits have you become a part of because you saw a post from it crop up on your feed?
tons of FB and reddit communities are private. you can see they exist from search but you can't access content unless you join
Reddit or Lemmy isn't a great to lace for private communities. If you want to be restrictive of who can participate go to a service that supports it like discord. If you want people to join your X only thing that is a you problem, it's not on everyone else to help you with it.
It's a public community - anyone is welcome to read the content. They only ask that people with the specific lived experience comment in the threads. If you're not interested in the content then, like the rest of Lemmy, it's on you to block it.
It's not public if you block participation.
i love how this common sense reply is downvoted because it isn't agreeing with the weird popular sentiment here that you should be able to take public space and make exclusive rules about who can use it.
also the hypocrisy of the reactions if the community in question was male only and women participating against the rules would be see as heroic instead of transgressive.
Right, women can only exist in exclusive environments.
Where’d you get that stat? That feels high. I certainly have never been asked to show my penis on Lemmy or anything like that. The signup thing also doesn’t ask for gender.
These will always be challenging topics for sure :-)
I love a bit of statistics to be honest. If you look at general web use of men versus women, it’s actually fairly close: 65 percent of women are online, versus 70 percent of men.
https://www.statista.com/statistics/1362981/share-of-internet-users-worldwide-by-gender/?srsltid=AfmBOorKXVKN0UiT2Y390LczKu4wTJIUfgaandRAK1rCE22WrXwrgXow
There are obviously some discrepancies to be found, for example in less developed countries, women are online a lot less.
If you look at platforms, men certainly are a majority on all of them - which makes sense, since we obviously outnumber women online in general. But the gap tends to be smaller than most tend to think.
For example, Facebook is 43 percent women, 56 percent men. Reddit is around 65 percent male.
https://adamconnell.me/reddit-statistics/#%3A%7E%3Atext=Like+most+social+networks%2C+Reddit%2Cplatform%27s+audience+identifies+as+male.
Now, Lemmy might be a bit more niche which attracts a bit more men. But I imagine women will certainly be more than 6 percent here if we did a proper, honest platformwide survey.
I imagine the male-centric feel of these platforms is more determined by amount of posting and engagement. If men outpost women 2 to 1 for example, it’s going to feel way more like a guy place. I also imagine many women don’t feel like pointing out that they are women for obvious reasons, further skewing our perception. We think the person on the other end is male, and since they post nothing to the contrary, our assumption must be correct. Even if it isn’t.
I’d certainly love it if women felt safe enough to share their perspective without fear of being harassed. Even if it’s only 1 in 100 men doing it, it only takes 1 to ruin your day I imagine…