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Also I wonder how it would look if we made a Men's Club community where only men were allowed and women were openly mob-scolded for participating. Would probably be considered a pretty sexist environment.
Literally nothing is stopping you from creating a community for men with a rule that only men participate. The difference is that in the community you're thinking about though, women wouldn't be constantly trying to mess with it. There are hundreds of communities to choose from. We're not entitled to participate in them all.
The major point isn't whether or not it's possible to create it. The major point was that it would be considered sexist, I imagine. Or at the very least a little cringe.
/c/dull_mens_club@lemmy.world
FWIW that community is just inspired by something that already exists outside of social media. The community owner kept !dull_mens_club@lemmy.world up since it's pretty active, but the new official/recommended one for dull stuff is !Dullsters@dullsters.net . They explicitly wanted it to be more inclusive (not that DMC was only restricted to men posting).
The official Dull Men's Club website encourages women to participate as well, so I don't think it should be considered as a men-only community:
If 99.9999% of users are men, it's effectively a place where men can express themselves without the fear that some women will flood the comments.
That's what women want with their women only spaces. And while that man wasn't being that rude, until women feel more comfortable let them have their bubbles.
The point of the community is to share the dull things you've accomplished, not to go there and talk about stuff with the expectation that only men will respond. I was trying to tell that commenter that, despite the name, it's not trying to be a man-only space, and people hopefully should not react to or expect the community to be as such. I just wanted to clarify since I think the comm is cool.
There's another similar community called !dullsters@dullsters.net if anyone objects to the name itself.
I agree with you.
That's quite an "if" that you're starting with.
It exists. Or did. Menslib over on that other platform.
The mens club you're talking about DOES exist though. Since men are not a marginalized minority, that club is just called society.
Your logic mirrors asking, ‘Why not create a whites-only club?’ Technically, you could, but people would rightly view it negatively because white people, as a group, are not marginalized. Exclusive spaces for minorities exist to provide relief from the discrimination or bias they routinely encounter. For groups that do not face those barriers, everyday society already functions as their ‘exclusive space,’ which makes it difficult for non-minorities to understand why others might need a separate environment.
We're talking about Lemmy communities here, having a men's-only space to discuss men's issues is totally fine. Also, demeaning men's-only spaces and placing men in a uniform category as "the oppressor group" is awful for society
I didn't place them in the oppressor group, I said they weren't oppressed.
Ok, let's walk through the implication.
-Women are oppressed.
-Men are not oppressed.
Who again are you saying is doing the oppressing? You're blind to the fact that most men are also oppressed, and pretending that men can just go out in society and be safe being vulnerable is willfully ignorant
You're putting words in my mouth and confusing the difference between a demographic and an individual. AS A DEMOGRAPHIC, women are oppressed. AS A DEMOGRAPHIC, men are not. We're talking about statistics here, not individual experience.
The fact that some men are oppressed does not imply men are equally or more oppressed than women.
The fact that women AS A DEMOGRAPHIC are oppressed and men AS A DEMOGRAPHIC are not does not imply all men are oppressors. It DOES imply that men opress women, but like... fucking duh? If men aren't pressing women, then who is? It doesn't mean all men are oppressors, but are you seriously going to sit her and act like the majority of domestic abusers, sexual harassers, and discriminators AREN'T men????
You're interpreting a defense of women exclusive spaces as an attack on individual men. You should unpack that.
Well then not all man are oppressed isn't that okay to have a man-only communty?
I guess I was a little to aggressive in my original comment. I meant to explain why minority only groups get less flack than majority only groups, not to suggest that men only groups shouldn't exist.
Women only groups exist alongside the people who disapprove of them. I don't see why men only groups can't. As many have pointed out, however, men only groups DO exist. Someone linked to dull_mens_club as a Lemmy specific example, but more broadly, fraternities exist. Battered mens groups exist. I think some groups like nights of Columbus and the masons are or were men only. Men only schools and colleges exist, as do women only. Most veterans organizations are primarily men just by nature of who makes up the majority of most militaries.
Copying my comment here for visibility too, that comm is not a men's only comm, nor should it be treated as such.
The official Dull Men's Club website encourages women to participate as well, so I don't think it should be considered as a men-only community:
Men are also being oppressed by the societal norms. Sure. Thing is, the severity of such oppression is not on the same level, and while real, is not a valid comparison to female oppression.
The oppressor is patriarchy, both men and women enforce it. Not everyone, but many. The way our societal norms, and other people in society peer pressure us into boxes is oppressive, and again, while men also are affected negatively by it, it's just not comparable.
So yeah, you made up that implication due to, and this is me being benign here, your misinformed self. Given that the percentage of male/female users on Lemmy being so male skewed, its effectively a men only online space. Let women have their women only online spaces.
Society doesn't allow women? And openly scolds them for participating? I dunno. It's "similar"? I guess? Anyway, the other person makes a lot of the points I would make too so I'll let y'all hash that out amongst yourselves.
Hey, go for it! If c/mensliberation became men-only, I'd support them! There are some communities where women wouldn't have anything to contribute, and that's okay and wouldn't be sexist.
But just don't go full kiwifarms with a men-only community and I'd say that's fine.
I know I’m sending mixed signals, but those things are not equivalent. All of modern society is patriarchal and women face exclusion from spaces their entire lives because of their sex or gender. Things have improved slightly over the decades but this kind of misogyny is still a global pandemic. When men are called privileged this is why. That ignorance is a privilege. Lucky you, that you haven’t experienced this constantly for your entire life. Want to create a “Men’s Club” community? We’ve all been living in it our entire lives. Nothing new to see there.
I still feel dirty thinking about the womensstuff community, though. The first time I stumbled in there I had no idea where I was and someone said “As a man…” and then asked a question, and they were told to be quiet. Women experience that constantly, and it’s worse for girls. So much worse. Especially if you are the chatty type of autistic that I am. Having experienced it, I would never subject others to that. I felt that interaction viscerally and immediately blocked the community. I understand wanting to have a safe space, and I do have those with certain private groups, but seeing that behavior was awful. Even queer spaces are welcoming to allies, and I feel inclusion of allies in all social matters is critical for progress to happen.