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‘It’s risky business emotionally’: the social shift towards open relationships
(www.theguardian.com)
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Chiming in as another poly person, having been poly and monogamous in different parts of my life (currently poly). A lot of people that want to be in a poly situation do not fully comprehend the responsibility involved. It can be easy and casual, but I've seen multiple polycules fall apart (dramatically) due to insufficient communication and poor management of expectations. It's totally possible to be poly, and in a serious, committed relationship. I was. It's also very very difficult. It takes a lot of work, communication, and trust.
Like you said, I've been in relationships with people that truly believe they have infinite love to give, which even if that were true, no one has infinite time and emotional bandwidth. I've had a longstanding rule that I've set for myself, that any committed relationship I am in must have a rock solid foundation of communication and trust before polyamory is possible, and I always close off my poly relationships until I am at that point in a relationship (obviously assuming my partner is okay with that). People need to communicate their desires going in, and should regularly check in and discuss boundaries, expectations, and hopes for the future in any relationship, and much more so in poly ones.
Fucking talk to each other, people. Say what you mean, mean what you say, and extend the same level of honesty and trust that you wish to receive. If I and my past partners always approached relationships with a communication-first perspective, we would've avoided a lot of pain and heartbreak.