They shouldn't be able to do that!
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It... Makes perfect sense?
YOU blocked them. They didn't block you.
It's like when you were a kid and told to ignore the kid bullying you; except that it actually works.
If I block them, I want to stop them from engaging with me.
I don't want to let them continue to engage with me and other people in my comments, but just lose my ability to see what they're saying about me.
That's like saying the purpose of a locked door isn't to keep people out, it's to prevent you from seeing what they're doing in your house
The engagement between the two of you is over. He's saying stuff to other people now, not to you.
You want to control what they see and do? No, you don't get to decide that for other people.
If you don't want to lose your ability to see what they're saying then don't block them.
That's not how harassment works.
I think you know that, too.
Consider it a restraining order.
A restraining order is something a judge grants. That'd be a moderator or administrator in the context of the Threadiverse, and they do have the ability to prevent people from posting. Bringing something to their attention is what the "report" link is for, it's their decision after that.
I remain firm in my opinion that giving everybody the ability to unilaterally apply restraining orders to everybody they want to for whatever reason they want to leads to bad outcomes. That's how Reddit does it and it's pretty badly broken over there.
It being broken over there doesn't make it not broken over here.
Report is good, but why should I have to let other people read my content? Why is this a hill you want to die on?
This is a public forum. If you post to a public forum, you should expect your posts to be public. If you're posting something you don't want to be public, all I can say to you is that this isn't the right platform for that.
thats exactly the take i used to have, until it was explained to me how harmful that is to persecuted minorities and drives them off the platform.
I evidently cannot do a good job of explaining why that would be the case and (apparently) why thats even a problem, but I believe it is.
Well, you haven't even tried to explain it. You've just been saying "but minorities" over and over while refusing to elaborate.
there are so many threads.
its not but minorities its "based on this discussion I had about privacy and anti-harassment needs that minorities need".
harassment is bad. minorities are especially vulnerable to harassment.
reporting is good, but reporting is only one tool
the current "block" tool doesn't actually blocks, it mutes
that is confusing to users, who are surprised when they block a harasser that the harasser is still harassing them out of sight.
It'd be nice if, in addition to the report tool, and the mute tool, if there was a tool that could stop someone who is causing you mental anguish from doing so directly in your comments.
because people who are scared of the comments aren't going to post\
we need more tools to combat harassment
a tool where you can stop someone from commenting on your content is a good self-service tool that is low-enough-impact that a mod doesn't need to be involved, because it doesn't affect the community itself.
and at the very least, what OP is saying is reasonable. that is confusing AF, the person you've blocked isn't blocked from doing anything, the blocker is just hamstrung
Just telling us "but someone else told me it's bad" contributes nothing to the current conversation if you cannot tell us anything about that discussion.
Giving every user access to a type of power that is known to be abusable is not a good solution. As I said at the start, we've seen this with Reddit. We've seen why this is not the right way.
i didnt just say that someone else told me its bad, i explained it to you.
and also reddit-style blocking isn't the only way to satisfy what OP (and I) want. its just the clearest example.
the reddit style blocking is a problem because malicious party can pre-emptively block people they're going to shit talk and then the subject of the shit-talking wont know about it. but you can still block interaction without blocking the visibility.
you can block a harasser from posting harassment on the victim's content without the reddit problems.
Why should you have to let other people read what you post on a public site?! Is that really the hill you want to die on?
Yes, it is.
Because it's my content.
Because it's not just a public site, public/private is a false dichotomy.
Because social networks need to provide effective anti-harassment tools, and if admins/mods are too overworked then that needs to be self-serviced.
Defederation exists
Instance bans exist
Community bans exist
Why are all of those good, but individual bans aren't?
Why are all of those effective (at least partially), but not for individuals?
Or is the argument that all of those should be disposed of, too?
No, it is not.
Because as soon as you post, it is not your content. Because it is a site build around public discourse, there is no dichotomy here let alone a false one. Because there are anti-harassment tools in place, you just want a new way to harass.
Because they are not done by end users in a vacuum. You can go and make your own instance and do all of these things, and are encouraged to do so.
I think that's what this all boils down to. That user seems to want to have access to admin tools like banning users but doesn't want to go through the hassle of actually administering an instance server.
Yeah, this is just a wild take so far. They keep rolling out that it needs to happen to protect minorities from harassment, but don't elaborate, at all. Not how having clearly abusable tools in the hands of every user would help, not on who the minority group is and how they are being harmed (just that they are! and are upset about it!), and instead of elaborating in anyway on this they just keep making up augments against them that no one has made.
They need to just make there own community at the very least. Its not hard, and would give them all the power they want and are asking for. But I assume since it would not give them the people automatically they will not.
i just want a new way to harass?
naw fam, i think you're looking to protect your existing way to harass people.
the fact that youre suggesting someone just goes and makes their own instance shows that you're being astronomically disingenuous.
Please show me where I am harassing someone, this would be valuable information.
And yes, I do think that what you are purposing would be abused and used for harassment.
You can go make a community right now, its not hard and very much encouraged. You can also make an instance but that is harder, and also encouraged.
I didnt say you were harassing someone, i said you were protecting the means by which to harass people.
go make a community? you've already been accusing me of being a power hungry mod, and now you're telling me to go make a community to mod?
i dont want to be a mod, being a mod sounds miserable, like ive repeatedly said.
and lemmy doesn't have enough users to be splitting up communities anyways. its built to do it, but practically you can't, despite it being "encouraged"
LOL at standing up an instance as being a reasonable solution to anything for a normal user or small community.
No I am saying you don't sound like you would be good at it, and then actively encouraged you to do so anyway.
You have not but I get it, you don't want the responsibility, just a bit of the power.
Do you think the people who host instances are some special class? That it is some unattainable goal? Its not as much work as you think, I might spin up one myself this year.
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It being different over here is what makes it not broken over here. The effects that makes Reddit's block system suck so badly are not present here.
It's hard to tell exactly what you mean, but there are different sucky effects.