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Yea everyone knows as soon as you have sex once you never feel lonely again.
Seems like a lot of incels really believe it though
Indeed, which may actually be the source of their problems, or at least one of them.
Yeah when they fixate on sex it generally results in a bunch of behaviors and personality traits that make them unpleasant to be around and often make other people (particularly women) dislike or even fear the idea of sex with them.
I also honestly think a lot of it comes down to homophobia. I think there's a lot of closeted or Kinsey 3+ bi men that are prevented from being happy with a male partner and even more importantly it keeps straight men from pursuing platonically fulfilling emotional intimacy from other men. I often deal with sexual transference behaviors out of male patients (when I try to help them emotionally they develop sexual attraction) and it can be difficult to both find a male staff member to model appropriate nonsexual emotional intimacy to them and to get the patient to accept the healthier experience / teaching.
TLDR there's a lot of things I would like to do to help solve the male loneliness epidemic because it's a very real thing but I'm AFAB and NB at best and 90% of the work needs to be done by men helping other men, so I'm functionally helpless to do so.
In my experience (as in my classmates(, you couldn't be more right.
The irony is that there's a chance it might be true.
Sex doesn't necessarily mean very much. But, they've convinced themselves it's massively important. Being a virgin defines them, and it's proof that their life is a failure. If they can lose their virginity, they might be able to convince themselves that they're now in a new category. If they can get away from the various toxic influences, maybe they can become more likeable people, and be less lonely as a result.
I mean... I've had sex and I never feel lonely.
Could also be because I'm severely introverted and probably autistic though...