Watch some YouTube channels like Jeff Geerling or Hardware Haven. They along with others, made the daunting task or self hosting manageable for me. Great tips with helpful pointers, and they lay things out fairly well, on their videos and their websites.
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Hopping in here to mention Proxmox Helper Scripts . They have many scripts that help you set up LXCs with software you may be using, including the full aar stack.
I tend to test things in a dedicated new VM, to get a feel for it, make sure I need to add it to my permanent services. If it does, I try to find a way to run it via LXC, and if that is too complicated/won’t work, I have a dedicated docker VM I throw it on. Everyone will answer the “LXC/VM/Docker” question differently, and they will all be correct. What is easiest for you is the right way.
I run a VM with opnsense as my network firewall. Moved it from a hardware install. I don’t see any issues, and there are loads of times it’s saved my ass having it backed up as a VM.
Slam as much ram as you can afford/fit inside the computer too. Every time I think I have enough, I always find I have need/use for more.
No shit, because we all see that AI is just technospeak for “harvest all your info”.
If this is all happening wirelessly, that could be your problem. Looks like you have a 4g modem with a built in router. Is anything in the aar stack connected to the router through Ethernet, or is everything using WiFi? Try hooking the laptop up to one of the lan ports on the back of your router, see if that helps things.
Could also just be all the aar apps doing their thing for the first time, pulling from databases, downloading cover art, etc. once your library is all set up, they should calm down. Only way to really check this is to log into your router and see who the loudest talker is.