derf82

joined 2 years ago
[–] derf82@lemmy.world 1 points 10 months ago

If you are not targeting all men, stop talking about men as one generalized body.

Sorry, when you say “I’d rather encounter a bear than a man” it sure as hell sound like you are saying all men are dangerous. If that isn’t what you are saying, you are saying it poorly.

[–] derf82@lemmy.world 1 points 10 months ago (2 children)

It’s what it says to me and many of us. Perhaps it’s the messaging.

What do you mean what behaviors? I don’t harass women. I barely talk to people I don’t know. But yet people are still scared of me.

And I would 100% pick a catholic priest. What a dumb choice. And, yeah, you are accusing everyone.

[–] derf82@lemmy.world 0 points 10 months ago (1 children)

I’m not self identifying as anything. You are saying woman should be more scared of me or any other man. And bears may not rape, but they do other damage.

[–] derf82@lemmy.world 0 points 10 months ago (3 children)

then you'd know it's not about you.

It absolutely is. You are saying no man, myself included, is safe. That no matter what good we might do individually, we will always be viewed as monsters. Can you not see why men find that hurtful?

[–] derf82@lemmy.world 1 points 10 months ago (4 children)

It saddens me that the default interpretation of this is accusatory

It’s saying men are inherently unsafe to be around. How is that not accusatory?

This isn’t about women’s safety versus men’s feelings, it’s about women’s feelings (of safety) versus men’s feelings (of respect).