calmocean

In March, my husband’s son broke up with his long-term girlfriend (they’d been together for over 10 years). It affected him a lot. My husband and he are extremely close, more like best friends, so my husband suggested he come and live with us for a while so that he wouldn’t be on his own and could keep his mind off things. He was living in London, whereas we’re in Surrey (so there’s a bit of a commute), but he agreed. I was fine with it at first, of course, as I know how much his son means to my husband. But I wasn’t given any timeframe. I assumed it might be a couple of weeks, maybe a month… yet now it’s been nearly six months. My husband and his son work out together every day, play sports, and generally spend a lot of time together. It’s obvious my husband is enjoying having him here, but I’d like it to go back to just the two of us. At the same time, I don’t want to put my husband in an awkward position.

I’m 31, my husband is 51, and lately I’ve been feeling some baby fever. For the record, kids aren’t a must for me, I’m genuinely happy with or without them, but I think it would be nice to experience that journey. My husband is hesitant, though. Even though he’s very healthy, active, and energetic, he feels like having a child in his 50s might be too late. He also already has a 27-year-old son, and he worries that the big age gap between siblings would feel strange.

I guess I’m just looking to hear what others think about this situation.