For years I didn't realise it was about American football.
In American football if you attack well you get to attack again, and again and again. You literally don't have to defend. The only thing better than defending well is not defending at all.
Obviously this reaches a point where you attack so well you score. But even if the other team attacks perfectly it becomes a 0 sum game.
Also american football is a stupid game.
Heard of so many people losing their phone. Then they try to log into something and the company (quite often google) says "I don't give a fuck if you know your passwords I'm never letting you log into your account get fucked, don't call I won't answer"
Not the first one.
I wasn't thinking the second but that would be an example. I would say conversations with men over this topic is a lot easier than you would expect. There is support there. Bringing up with women who want a men to not cry or be sensitive can be difficult.
The highest frequency I see of it is when issues are discarded when it is an issue with men. Be it homelessness, suicide, job inequality, domestic violence or any other issue. But not for women. It seems men are worthless in a lot of people's eyes because they aren't women.
Or equally men are responsible for all the bad things in the world because simply they are men and men are responsible. For example a common issue is when men say they open up to a woman and that women used that to attack them. Then someone might say this is the patriarchy and toxic masculinity in action and men need to sort it out. Even though the man has done absolutely nothing wrong only the woman. Deflecting any responsibly from women doing something they shouldn't have.
The inequality of responses from those being harmed, or undervalued and those responsible for the negativity seems at times strongly dependant on if it is a man or a women.
At least that is what I have seen mostly. But I'm more curious about others.
Would have been nice to do the same in Wales also but that's not England so fuck em.