If someone claims that women are held to a higher standard, I think asking “how is it possible that on average, at all levels, they get higher grades and they are the majority of students?” is a fair question.

No, it completely misunderstands ops point, and i am flabbergasted that you should double-down like this. Can you provide for me other meanings for ops point? what "held to a higher standard" might actually mean? Until you can tell me how "but girls grades were higher ipso facto they were not held to higher standards" does *not or might not be relevant, your refutation spurious and your refutation dismissed.

I have no interest to debate or invalidate one’s experience, maybe this cannot be generalized if there are quite glaring issues with statistical data.

i don't believe you, because that's exactly what you are doing. if you're not interested, stop doing it?