However, does OP even realize that their anecdotal experience doesn't even remotely satisfy the (heavy) burden of proof for their biased hypothesis?

In a blind study, everyone in a room going silent when a trans person talks is not necessarily experimentally a 1:1 to everyone in the room going silent when a biological male talks. MANY people that have transitioned (whether they want to admit it or not) have a noticeable difference in their vocal timbre than their biological counterparts. Maybe people went silent because they were fascinated by or fixated on the unusual timbre of the OP’s transitioned vocal cords. We will never know… and some of us realize that correlation does not equal causation.

For example, you wouldn’t conduct a scientific study where you’re attempting to show the differences between how males and females are treated and choose to have one of your control subjects be a trans male. It’s just different despite how inconvenient and hotly debated that truth is.

Additionally, OP was in the same department for years and then transitioned. So, naturally people would approach a more experienced person for help or advice regardless of perceived sex if they knew that person was there longer than them.

Obviously there are differences between how men and women are treated…but OP seems to be using the worst possible anecdotes to provide proof for their hypothesis without correcting for these sometimes subtle inconsistencies. Maybe OP thinks they pass as a male a lot more convincingly than they actually do.

[–] ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone 0 points 4 days ago (2 children)

The opposite happened to me when I transitioned. When I was perceived as a guy, if I was in a meeting, people didn't instantly fall silent if I spoke, but if they tried to overtalk me and I just kept speaking, they would eventually give way. I transitioned 8 years ago, and from the earliest days of my transition until now, if someone starts overtalking me, they will just keep doing it even if I don't stop talking. The only way to stop them is to vocally call them out and ask them to be quiet until I'm finished.

Similarly, I used to be seen as one of the two "tech guys". The person that people would come up to and ask for tech advice to avoid calling the internal helpdesk. After I transitioned, they started coming up to me and asking me where the other tech guy is.

My career has stalled since I came out. I'm in a trans inclusive country, in a trans inclusive workplace, and I transitioned so long ago, that most people don't know that I'm trans or simply forget. But since coming out, the various shoulder taps in to project opportunities and the like just don't happen anymore.

Maybe people went silent because they were fascinated by or fixated on the unusual timbre of the OP’s transitioned vocal cords.

It's a nice theory, but it's somewhat strange how my own experience as a trans person transitioning from male to female had the opposite impact. Did people start overtalking me because they were fascinated by my timbre?

Additionally, OP was in the same department for years and then transitioned. So, naturally people would approach a more experienced person for help or advice regardless of perceived sex if they knew that person was there longer than them.

Again, it's a nice theory, but in my case, they stopped approaching me. And even the ones who don't know that I'm trans don't approach me that way, because I'm not seen as one of the "tech folk" anymore, despite not losing my experience when I transitioned.

but OP seems to be using the worst possible anecdotes

Similarly, you are using the least likely possibilities that contradict the first hand experience of folk directly in these scenarios to fit your pre-conceived notion of what is happening.

Yeah, the OPs post and mine are anecdotal, so you shouldn't take either of our experiences as universal truths. But your takes aren't even anecdotal. They're suppositions.

[–] brutallyhonestcritic@lemmy.world 0 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

That’s true.

Thanks for not immediately dogpiling me and instead actually making some great points. I appreciate the perspective.

[–] pageflight@lemmy.world 0 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Thanks for sharing. All these experiences are very illuminating regarding the lesser impact of socialization, too. Like, I might have thought my female colleagues had just been told to cede the floor so many times they didn't often speak at meetings. And that could still be adding to it, but here are the same individuals with the same habits getting starkly different treatment.

Even knowing these trends from countless other stories and statistics, hearing each additional experience helps keep it in mind and see more often when it's happening.

[–] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 0 points 3 days ago

I like to frame socialization as a lifelong process. People raised female often describe these experiences at formative years. And I've seen many trans men struggle to find their voices as adults.

But as a trans woman I and many I've spoken to had multiple socializations. Effeminate male: more or less bullied into gender conformity, including things like being mocked for passivity; gender conforming male: taken seriously and encouraged to speak up more; and adult female: treated like you're bad for speaking up and routinely discounted and underestimated.

Oh and there's the secret fourth socialization: trans woman: basically it's female but when you assert yourself you're accused of male socialization.

[–] Gronk@aussie.zone 0 points 4 days ago

I get it gals, I wouldn't want to be around this either. Oof.

[–] forrgott@lemm.ee 0 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Maybe you're full of shit.

[–] brutallyhonestcritic@lemmy.world 0 points 4 days ago

Thanks for the well-constructed rebuttal.

So inciteful!