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[โ€“] XM34@feddit.org 82 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (45 children)

Oh wow, another meme completely disregarding a problem many are struggeling with. But don't worry guys and gals, it's okay because it's making fun of mens' suffering. And men can't be discriminated against.

On another note, has anyone figured out yet, why men are never emotionally available? It truly is a mystery ๐Ÿค”

/s in case you can't tell.

[โ€“] Slowter1134@lemmy.world 41 points 2 weeks ago (43 children)

Silly men just need to understand that saying "I'm lonely" and "women belong in the kitchen" are equivalent. So don't you dare ever talk or reach out if you're lonely.

It's a real shame that male loneliness is so quickly dismissed because it would be a great starting point to begin talking about how traditional male friendships tend to keep each other at a distance, and maybe come up with ways to bridge the gap so existing friendships can become deeper.

Instead it feels like the conversation just gets to this point where we all collectively shrug and say, "shame" and never really talk about it more than this.

[โ€“] ubergeek@lemmy.today 0 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Maybe, just maybe... men don't have deep friendships because "empathy is gay"?

[โ€“] Slowter1134@lemmy.world 2 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

I mean yeah. To start with, casual homophobic phrase: "{blank} is gay" is a very common, very quick social check on behavior; it's saying to be careful of being too effeminate, or too lame, uncool.

I think for children, they first use the phrase more to mean "lame", it's edgy for them and therefore interesting because it's as close to cursing as they can get without cursing. I think that by the time they grow old enough to understand that the phrase can be homophobic, it's likely that the phrase "don't be gay" has already been repeated enough that it creates an unconscious tension to still try to "not be gay", even if the phrase isn't used anymore because "that would be gay."

I think confronting children's fear of appearing "lame" would go a long way in promoting men's willingness to discover how to have deeper bonds with each other, even if it could be awkward at first.

edit: wording

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