Because one or the other person in the relationship isn't being honest which happens quote frequently. People in relationships lie by omission all the time.

[–] stevedice@sh.itjust.works -2 points 1 day ago (10 children)

In a relationship, sure. In a marriage? Can't help to fault them for not finding out.

[–] Malfeasant@lemmy.world 4 points 16 hours ago (1 children)

My wife lied about who she was and what she wanted from me for 20 years before she started fucking another guy... She even managed to hide that from me for a few months, and continued to try to hide it as I figured out what was going on... I ended up having to talk to the guy (because of course it was someone we both knew) to get confirmation- and I thought it had only just started, he's the one who told me it had been going on for months. He said she told him we were already separated, just living in the same house to keep things stable for the kids... He seemed genuinely distressed and apologetic to find out that wasn't true, and from my wife's change in demeanor afterwards, I think he broke it off with her, though she was still trying to stay close to him, under the guise of letting our kids play together... But I suspect even that's stopped now, based on what I hear from our daughter... Sounds like she's latched onto another guy she works with... Which is how we met way back when... And she still hasn't filed the divorce papers, she started working on it back in March... At this point I'm going to beat her to it, I've been talking to a couple lawyers...

[–] stevedice@sh.itjust.works 0 points 9 hours ago

That's different. I'm sure she still holds most of the same values she did when you two got married. Cheating, of course, is awful, but it doesn't touch all aspects of your life so it's much easier to hide. I'm talking about people who end up marrying someone who turns out to be a Nazi or the likes. I find it hard to believe that they didn't know before marrying them.

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