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A "Showerthought" is a simple term used to describe the thoughts that pop into your head while you're doing everyday things like taking a shower, driving, or just daydreaming. The most popular seem to be lighthearted clever little truths, hidden in daily life.

Here are some examples to inspire your own showerthoughts:

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Fridging is when a love interest gets killed just to push the main character forward. It used to mean a woman getting hurt to make a man act. Now it covers any partner dying to pump up the plot.

Here’s the cold truth. A romantic loss is the only loss that actually justifies losing your head over it. If your boyfriend or girlfriend dies, that grief can spiral into obsession or a need for revenge. That is story fuel. Everything else is background noise.

An uncle, a child, a best friend, a parent, a teammate getting killed is not tragic nor is it enough to be sad and enough to motivate you to be a hero. Those losses might be a little sad but they do not automatically justify turning your life into this crusade against injustice. They are not dramatic enough to demand you drop everything and hunt a killer down.

So yeah, fridging as a device works because romantic love is one of the few things audiences treat as absolute.

Whenever there is a story about a main character who is depressed because their best friend, parent, or child dies, I just can't get into it, and I'm always like, "Please get over it," because this isn't enough to be depressed over, and it's not enough to want to become a good person.

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[–] hedgehog@ttrpg.network 2 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

You should consider talking to a therapist about why you don’t consider non-romantic relationships to be valuable, because your take is not only not universal, but also indicative that you have some shit you need to work through.

[–] Grimreaper@sopuli.xyz -1 points 3 weeks ago

So if you lived in a superhero universe and you got powers and your best friend was killed, you would honestly use your powers to find the killer and be a hero to avenge them? Seriously?

[–] Jankatarch@lemmy.world 1 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

"You killed my father, prepare to die"
- Some hero

[–] Kolanaki@pawb.social 1 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

Sounds like you need to read The Count of Monte Cristo.

It is the epitome of a revenge story and it doesn't need to kill the love interest to work. In fact, it works better because his wife doesn't die but remarried the fucker who ruined his life.

Moby Dick, too. Pretty sure the whale didn't kill Ahab's wife.

[–] themeatbridge@lemmy.world 1 points 3 weeks ago

What the chicken fried fuck are you talking about?

Fridging is a form of reductionist misogyny. It's not just that somebody died, it's that a woman existed only to die in a brutal fashion.

[–] spittingimage@lemmy.world 1 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

An uncle, a child, a best friend, a parent, a teammate getting killed is not tragic

That's a unique take, to say the least.

[–] railway692@piefed.zip 1 points 3 weeks ago

That's cold.

OP's like It's only tragic if we were banging.