Yeah but the problem is I often fuck up my responsibilities :(
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Yeah I agree. There are things I need to personally work on but our relationship has been damaged so much, if (and that's a big if) there's still hope for a future together I think we will definitely need couples therapy to get us back to a place of mutual trust and joy.
Thank you so much! Yeah I often forget that and only see all the things I haven't achieved yet.
Thank you so much, I appreciate it!
Yeah, I.... I try to remind myself that I can't change the past. I should have done something sooner but also I have ADHD and I don't mean it as an excuse but that's the whole problem with ADHD.
We definitely need space from each other right now and... I don't know, I'm both incredibly sad but also if we really can't make each other happy anymore than that's a fact I need to accept.
Wow, what you wrote hit really close to home as well.
My wife had a very difficult childhood and unfortunately me having ADHD not being attentive enough triggers her personal trauma. We are a perfect match in many ways but in this aspect we are a terrible combination, our personal histories make everything so much harder.
Thank you so much for your words and I'm sorry you're going through such a hard thing yourself <3
Thank you, I really appreciate your input.
I've been getting better at handling things, I think. I also realize that sometimes I'm so scared of fucking up that I don't know what / how I should do something. But when I just do it without worrying so much it often works out. Maybe not in the most efficient way, maybe sometimes in a kinda complicated way, but often I do find a way.
I will keep trying my best and I know I will keep getting better at things. And if my marriage really is over then maybe we can both be happier than we are now.
Thank you <3 <3 <3
Thank you for your support <3
I don't think my wife came into our marriage expecting me to change. It took her a while to realize something was wrong and all the while our relationship was developing a dynamic that just got worse and worse.
Thank you <3 No I don't live in northern Colorado but virtual hugs are very much appreciated <3
Yeah, being kind to myself has been hard. I feel like such a failure most of the time.
Thank you so much <3
Thank you <3 I don't think my wife necessarily wants me to function like I don't have adhd but I still often have a shitty way of handling it when I fuck up.