14th_cylon

The solution is to train your dog and keep it on a leash in public. Be a responsible owner and accept that strangers don’t have to like your dog, no matter how cute or well-behaved you think it is. It’s not that hard.

part of the solution is also to train your kids not to approach unfamiliar dog without a permission. not every stranger or their dog has to like your kid, no matter how cute you think it is, it is really not that hard 😂

i didn’t mean to move the responsibility of dog ownership onto the potential victim.

i was simply reacting to the “no reason” part of the statement. dogs, same as humans, are pretty simple creatures. we operate on a trigger > reaction basis.

we may not know what the trigger for the dog is (hell, we often don’t know what the trigger is for us), but that doesn’t mean there is none. and unfortunately, parents often don’t teach kids correct approach to stranger’s dog (probably because they themselves don’t know it), but that does not seem to be your case.

Cannot read body language, if I can’t see the dog

yeah, that’s fair, seems like the owner’s fault.

This and that I got bitten, without warning or reason

oh there was a reason and most likely there was a warning, it is just that no one taught you to read the dog's body language and be aware of the warning.

i am not native speaker as well, so it is sometimes hard to judge the nuances. in the old days of the internet there was a saying "be conservative in what you say and liberal in what you hear". so maybe do that. or don't care at all and just move on 🤷‍♂️ sorry i don't have anything better.

Like, I was just going grocery shopping the other day and had an unmarked van behind me for what felt like an awkwardly long time. I immediately started formulating escape plans. I drove an extra long route to the store just to make sure I wasn’t being followed. Once I parked I sat in my car an extra few minutes to observe if any other suspicious vehicles also parked and if anybody got out. I made sure to message my wife that I parked, that I was on my way into the store, that I was 25%/50%/75% done getting items, that I was checking out, that I was back in the car and headed home.

These are not thoughts I should have to have. It sucks.

jesus fucking christ. i am sorry this is happening to you or anyone else.

To me it still literally means Shut The Fuck Up, and whenever I see it, my immediate reaction is that the person on the other end actually meant it exactly as rude as I have always perceived it all my life.

even if they does it mean exactly as rude as you perceive it, does it really matter? you will never be liked by everyone. so if it is situation where you can just shrug your shoulders and leave, it may be time to do it and don't take it too personally. the person on the other side can be 7 years old. if it happened in real life, would you spend time discussing with him?

if you see a person with a sign about the end of the world coming tomorrow looking moderately insane on the street, in real life - do you go to them and try to convince them they are not right, or do you just shrug your shoulders and move on with your life? and why do we often act differently online?

to be clear i am not trying to be holier-than-thou here, i've been guilty of exactly this many times myself, but it is at least useful to be aware of this in retrospect.

What?

How does sharing xenophobic bullshit on twitter "harm global tech community"?

she said at least 65 million meals, so she could still be correct...