Science

And yet... Research has repeatedly shown it's women who instigate relationship violence.

Ah yes, the inevitable downvoters.

It's been well established. You don't like it? Shame that.

No I'm not providing a source. Your anger should motivate you to look.

Here's a place to start: which relationships experience the most violence: Male/Female, Male/Male, Female/Female?

Interestingly, the male/male is the least violent, and female/female the most violent.

'Nuff said.

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/30186202/ https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC6113571/ https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/30465625/ https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC7034778/ https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/23271429/ https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC4046894/ https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/21731790/ https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC8766270/ https://williamsinstitute.law.ucla.edu/publications/sexual-orientation-disparities-ipv/ https://williamsinstitute.law.ucla.edu/publications/ipv-sex-abuse-lgbt-people/ https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/32064141/

So take your biases and fucking read.

Further, if men are the primary cause of violence in relationships then:

F/F relationships should show orders of magnitude less violence.

M/M should have the highest levels of violence and be orders of magnitude greater then F/M.

And yet none of this is true in any study.

Maybe if they are violent and reoffending they should be disallowed from participating in a close, intimate relationship until they receive intensive therapy, which may include medication?

This is just masking a problem that is multi-faceted and the results aren't really that impressive.

Edit: I am not suggesting a license for private interpersonal relationships, I'm suggesting that we actually rehabilitate prisoners/offenders and give them therapy/mental health treatment. Commenters below are twisting my words and saying I'm suggesting things that are not in the above text, not even a little bit. I quickly stated that I meant this to be a term for probation (which is conditional freedom), not something retroactively applied to past offenders or applied to all adults in the form of a license.