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I'm about 12,950 Kilometers from my spawn point, according to Google Earth. That place is not "home" since I barely have any memories of it, and left the country during primary school.

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[–] AA5B@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago

Maybe 250 miles. While I have “rose colored glasses” about that being a wonderful place to grow up, now it’s all grey monochrome dystopia. The major tech employer left and the town never recovered. Many years later it’s exactly the same, but decayed.

At this point I’ve lived in my current town almost as long, my current region longer. It’s home

[–] spirinolas@lemmy.world 3 points 23 hours ago

I'm about 500 meters from the place where the hospital I was born stood (the building still exists, but it's something else now).

I grew up in this city since my parents moved here before I was born. I also lived here half of my adult life and I'm thinking of leaving.

I have no emotional connection with this city. My family is from a different region of the country and we have a very different culture. My heart is with my parents hometown and I always identify myself with the region autonym.

[–] RememberTheApollo_@lemmy.world 3 points 22 hours ago

Other side of the country.

[–] samus12345@sh.itjust.works 3 points 18 hours ago* (last edited 18 hours ago)

About 5,743 miles (9,227 km) from my spawn point, and no, it's not home, although I wish it were now that the US has decided to be fascist. I was born in an American army hospital in Stuttgart, Germany.

[–] grasshopper_mouse@lemmy.world 3 points 16 hours ago

38 miles away, but it should be noted that since being spawned, I've moved upwards of 3k miles from that point and then returned to my current location many years later.

[–] aesthelete@lemmy.world 3 points 14 hours ago

Thousands of miles and no.

[–] moseschrute@lemmy.world 3 points 8 hours ago* (last edited 8 hours ago)

Spawn point LOL

About 1-1.5 hours

[–] dfi@lemmy.nz 3 points 8 hours ago

12005km from my place of birth where I still have family. But home is where I live

[–] chatokun@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 8 hours ago

I don't feel like ~~doing the math~~ googling it, but I was born Brooklyn, NY, USA. Currently a few miles outside Atlanta, GA, but my journey here takes me up and down the east coast, plus a place further south. I can't really think of NY as home because I've only lived there maybe 1.5 years at most, and 1 of those was as an infant.

At 1 my family moved to GA, at 2 they moved to Saint Vincent and the Grenadines (fathers home country), where my first memories are from. At 7 my mom left said father over his repeated cheating, so we moved back to Brooklyn for ~6 months (maybe less) then moved to Virginia until I hit 17 when I graduated highschool. Moved to Florida, lived there for years until 2017 and I moved to GA for a job.

I'm not sure I consider anywhere other than where I am now "home." I have fond memories of each place, but they just feel like phases of my past life, like elementary(well, 4 different elementary), middle, or highschool. I don't consider any of those schools any more of a school I went to than the others, and I generally treat "home" the same. It's just where I live now.

I also don't fully identify with any ethnic group either. I spoke without an accent in the island so never fully integrated, and then in the US I didn't quite have the same lived experience there either.

[–] YiddishMcSquidish@lemmy.today 3 points 6 hours ago

~18 hours away. Yes, where I'm at currently is definitely home.

[–] stringere@sh.itjust.works 2 points 14 hours ago

I live 2.2 miles/3,5 km from my childhood home but have lived as far away as 4,383 miles/7.053 km away. Yes, I would consider my hometown as my current home.

[–] ThisIsNotHim@sopuli.xyz 2 points 1 day ago

A few hours. For me home is always a few things: my current residence, the place I grew up, and any place I slept last night that I'll sleep again tonight.

They don't all mean the same thing, but let's go home could mean any of those.

[–] Waldelfe@feddit.org 2 points 14 hours ago

6.5 km from my appartment to the hospital I was born in.

I was born in the neighboring city, currently live in the district that is closest to said city. However I grew up in a village 90km from here. My parents moved out of the city when I was 2. I lived in several different cities, even on a different continent for a while. A couple of years ago I moved here for a job and 5 years ago my now-husband and I found this appartment together which happens to be on the border of our city that is closest to the city I was born in.

[–] Mac@mander.xyz 2 points 1 day ago

~2250 miles

Visiting the area feels like going home. I don't belong in my current location and i hate it here.

[–] lunarul@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago

Over 10,000km. This is home, it's where my kids were born and are growing up. But there's also "back home", where I spent more than half of my life, where I met my wife, and where both our families are other than the two of us and our children.

[–] hakunawazo@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago

Home is where the close ones are.
Beside that, birth place is 151 km away.

About 30 miles, couple towns over. We moved away when I was 5, and back to roughly where I live now when I was 9. I consider my current city to be much more my home than my spawn point. Spawn point is in a pretty boring red county.

[–] ultranaut@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago

I'm more than a thousand miles away and it never felt like home. The few times I've been back reinforced my decision to leave.

[–] HurlingDurling@lemmy.world 2 points 17 hours ago

I have been about 4500 miles away for most of my life, but I was home sick so I moved closer and I am now only 1500 miles away from spawn.

[–] Witchfire@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

About 6k km, vertically. Basically went from the middle of the planet to the tip.

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[–] Jiggle_Physics@sh.itjust.works 2 points 2 hours ago* (last edited 2 hours ago)

roughly 2200 miles, and no

Farthest away I have ever lived from where I was born? About 5500 miles. Again, neither were home. Don't know if I have a place that is really a home no matter where I am, because I have moved around a lot in my life.

Hard to say, as my "spawn point," was decommissioned a few years ago, and is currently being dismantled. I suspect the medical deck is long gone from the ship.

"Home" has, for me, always referred to where I currently live.

[–] RBWells@lemmy.world 2 points 16 hours ago

I am less than a mile from the hospital I was born in. Like some middle ages peasant.

The city grew up with me, or I grew up with it; when I was young there was not much to do and it was quite violent. Through my life it has become vibrant and safer, not that I had anything to do with it. Now there is so much to do, beautiful parks, concerts, downtown came back to life.

I have visited other places, for months at a time before I had kids, and shorter trips after. But here actually is home, it's funny. I wouldn't have dreamed it when I was a little kid.

[–] Nasan@sopuli.xyz 2 points 1 day ago

2208 km, moved when I was in my early 20s. Still have friends and family there so I visit occasionally, but I have no desire to move back.

[–] LovableSidekick@lemmy.world 2 points 14 hours ago* (last edited 14 hours ago)

Less than 200 miles. But I grew up about 400 miles farther. And no.

[–] Aggravationstation@feddit.uk 2 points 15 hours ago* (last edited 14 hours ago)

My house is about 2 miles away from the hospital where I was born but only a couple of meters from the spot where the house my parents lived in when I was born used to stand, which means there's a good chance I can see the spot where I was conceived from my upstairs window.

[–] FerretyFever0@fedia.io 2 points 1 day ago

2307.9 miles. Don't remember Northern California at all.

[–] sunglocto@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 1 day ago

16 miles right now.

[–] urata@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago

About 120 miles. I am still familiar with the town, I've been back several times, but it's not my home. I've lived in the city I live in now for a little over 30 years.

[–] Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago

About 30 miles. I guess I'd consider it local, but I've never considered that specific town home.

[–] SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 day ago

About 1600km, and fuck no. Hit the ground running when I was 16 and never called anywhere home again.

[–] Outdated4134@lemmy.zip 2 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

~230 kilometers. I'm home now. That's not home. Left there at age 13.

[–] Fleur_@aussie.zone 2 points 1 day ago
[–] NotSafeForWorld@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 12 hours ago

13,245 km from spawn point, but home is always where my wife and cats are

[–] Larsa@lemmy.world 2 points 12 hours ago

A few hundred miles. And no i dont belong in this world.

[–] Evotech@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

480km away. Not much

And no

[–] Zorsith@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 day ago

A bit over 1200 miles. Haven't been to Texas since before i could read, once got close enough in Oklahoma to seat the GIANT WALL OF HEAT to the south and promptly said fuck that. No desire to ever be there.

[–] trijste@lemmy.ca 2 points 11 hours ago

Feels like they langoliers in my mind

[–] Donjamos@lemmy.world 2 points 2 hours ago

After trying out another country (Switzerland) and other cities in Germany (Berlin and Kiel) im back in Hamburg where I spawned. Yea other places are nice as well but no matter where I went I liked it here more. But we are known for thinking our town is the most beautiful place on earth.

[–] kadaverin0@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 23 hours ago

I live about an hour from my spawn point. I don't consider it home as I left it 15 years ago after realizing it was dead end city full of terrible people.

[–] Azal@pawb.social 2 points 6 hours ago

375 miles away from spawn point, but my tutorial zone (where I actually grew up) was 215 miles away from there and 215 miles away from my current home point.

I lived in the city of my birth for a bit for a job, fucking hated that city, it was never home. Lived off and on where I grew up, and now have lived in my current for about 10 years.

Where I grew up is a complicated feeling. I miss the Ozark mountains, the flatlands I live in now I don't like despite liking the city. But the area has changed so much and so rapidly it's like coming to the bones of an animal where nature has rapidly overtaken the body and saying that's the animal. It's... recognizable if you squint at it, but it's dead and gone and now something completely different.

I'm not sure if where I live now is "home" still. But if where I grew up was home, I can never go back there. I can live in that place, but the farming town is now a metro that is unrecognizable.

[–] PonyOfWar@pawb.social 2 points 21 hours ago

Around 20km from the town I was born in. Never lived there though, so it's not really my home but definitely part of my home region. I do currently live in the village and house I grew up in, which I would consider as home.

[–] Hossenfeffer@feddit.uk 2 points 21 hours ago* (last edited 21 hours ago)

Currently 7 miles / 11.3 km away, but have lived 3941 miles / 6343 km away.

The fact that I'm now so close again is pretty much pure chance.

I'm a single digit number of miles from the place I was born, but I do not consider the town it is in to be "home" as it is in a neighboring town.

[–] JandroDelSol@lemmy.world 2 points 19 hours ago

7km, and yes, still home lol

[–] blarth@thelemmy.club 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)
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[–] josteinsn@lemmy.world 2 points 19 hours ago

100km now, but even though i say I’m from there, i have no family and barely any acquaintances left. Still can do the dialect, though, if i make an effort. Usually don’t. And in a couple of years, I’ll move hundreds or thousands of kilometres away. Again.

[–] GuyFawkes@midwest.social 2 points 1 day ago

Right now I’m 9.8 miles away. Looking up how far away from it I live…looks like 10 miles. So now I’m wondering if I just spend my life rotating in a 10 miles away radius from my spawn point.

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