Science

And yet... Research has repeatedly shown it's women who instigate relationship violence.

Ah yes, the inevitable downvoters.

It's been well established. You don't like it? Shame that.

No I'm not providing a source. Your anger should motivate you to look.

Here's a place to start: which relationships experience the most violence: Male/Female, Male/Male, Female/Female?

Interestingly, the male/male is the least violent, and female/female the most violent.

'Nuff said.

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/30186202/ https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC6113571/ https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/30465625/ https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC7034778/ https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/23271429/ https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC4046894/ https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/21731790/ https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC8766270/ https://williamsinstitute.law.ucla.edu/publications/sexual-orientation-disparities-ipv/ https://williamsinstitute.law.ucla.edu/publications/ipv-sex-abuse-lgbt-people/ https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/32064141/

So take your biases and fucking read.

Further, if men are the primary cause of violence in relationships then:

F/F relationships should show orders of magnitude less violence.

M/M should have the highest levels of violence and be orders of magnitude greater then F/M.

And yet none of this is true in any study.