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Anon asks out a girl (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 22 hours ago by Early_To_Risa@sh.itjust.works to c/greentext@sh.itjust.works

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[–] jj4211@lemmy.world 1 points 5 hours ago (1 children)

There’s nothing in the text that indicates that’s what he was thinking.

She isn't a telepath, it's not about what he was thinking, it's a risk of how it may be perceived. Taking offense/getting defensive is not about what was intended, but how it was taken. So if she, even incorrectly, thought there was a 'pity date' being offered she might have been overly mean in her reaction.

It's not about judging, it's about feedback and offering an outside perspective on facets that could be done better next time. Even if you are thinking this should be a good opportunity for both of you because of her stated problems, don't bring it up explicitly. It's clearly something she is likely to be touchy about.

[–] sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 4 hours ago* (last edited 4 hours ago)

She isn't a telepath, it's not about what he was thinking...

I mean, you... said it was... about what he may have been thinking, that was part of what you said.

Why throw out an idea and then just retreat on it?

Taking offense/getting defensive is not about what was intended, but how it was taken.

Meaningless tautology.

Being offended is when someone is offended.

Uh huh.

Yep.

So if she, even incorrectly, thought there was a 'pity date' being offered she might have been overly mean in her reaction.

So you're conceeding the point; this woman was needlessly cruel.

You're trying to explain her actions.

Sure, yeah, maybe you're right.

... I don't care what her explanation may be.

I am describing what she did, not why she did it.

Also, your explanation for her actions just makes her look worse.

"Well, I decided I was being demeaned, for no discernible reason, so I acted like a bully first."

Ah, the pre-emptive, "defensive" invasion of Iraq, or Ukraine, as a strategic paradigm for handling flirting, sounds great.

Also also, stop using hypotheticals to describe her actions.

We agreed we are taking the story at face value, now you're back to acting like you're not.

She was needlessly cruel.

Not 'maybe she may have been'.

She was.

It's not about judging...

She judged him. Publically. Harshly.

I'm gonna judge her too.

Fair's fair.

You don't get to play by two different sets of rules and standards if two people are playing the same game.