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It might help to lean that some ≠ all. I mean, let be honest; there are hundreds of millions of men, both gay and straight- that are in healthy monogamous relationships across the globe. And while our anecdotal experience may sometimes be a valid cause, it’s not invitation to suspend belief that there may be exceptions to our personal experience.
Just, try your best to give him time and be patient, he’s making his way to you. I promise.
I'm not saying all men, because I was one of those men who valued loyalty above all and planned to have my one and only. I still think these men exist, but they're very rare, especially in the gay world. I even find them a little naive for my taste now. It takes a very particular mindset and self-control to stick to monogamy in the long term, and that's what I've lost out of spite, because I never got that in return.
By "men aren’t built for that," I mean so many things by that, from our biology to the endless barrage of cheating stories, and even to socio-cultural differences between countries. Too many things point to us not being a monogamous species, but our societies in the West tend to romanticize and entertain the idea anyway.
That’s fair and I understand to a degree. But if we replace “men” with “people” I’d totally agree. But that’s a massive undertaking to unpack.
Still, I honestly wish you the best!
Yeah, absolutely, women are quite horny too, and I don't mean to downplay that. I'm only talking about my experience and what led me to this attitude that I wouldn't have accepted for me mere years ago.
And thank you, you're very kind, and that's very commendable of you.
Anytime! And again, best of luck to ya.