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Trying to argue with conservatives.

All that they're great at is detouring, distancing, playing down, doubling-tripling down, disassociating, strawmen and more illogical fallacies. They can't take up an honest debate unless there are rules in place that gives them any outs from being pressed when confronted with questions they can't give truthful answers to.

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[–] yakko@feddit.uk 50 points 20 hours ago (7 children)

Really trying to change anyone's mind online. I've just given up trying to debate evil, I just try to make people laugh at them now.

[–] FaceDeer@fedia.io 17 points 19 hours ago (2 children)

Yeah, everything OP says about arguing with conservatives applies to arguing with any other group with entrenched views. The problem is that each of those groups will insist that their own views aren't "entrenched", they're just reasonable.

Social media is largely designed to group people together into like-minded communities, so you find this everywhere. Here in the Fediverse too, though of course we here in the Fediverse will insist that contrary to all those other social media platforms we're open and diverse and not susceptible to that sort of thing.

Personally, I've found that one can overcome the sense of futility by reframing the debate. When I debate with someone online it's not to change their views, because that's basically impossible (it rarely happens but I don't count on it). Instead, the point of debate is to try to win over the casual onlookers who aren't participating directly. They aren't likely to have as much of a dog in the fight and so are more amenable to having those "huh, I hadn't thought of it that way" reactions.

The one nice thing about the Fediverse over Reddit in this regard, IMO, is the fact that we can see both the upvote and downvote count. So even if a comment of mine is being hammered with 93 downvotes I can still see that there were 18 upvotes and think to myself "at least a few people got what I was saying here."

[–] yakko@feddit.uk 7 points 19 hours ago

I've had my share of boos and hisses in my time as a jokey internet commenter. When I really bomb, knowing a few people laughed is a consolation. Reddit is just so alienating now

I'm sorry, the notion that the Fediverse has diversity of thought is actually laughable. Not just about politics.

A very specific type of person goes here.

[–] SnotFlickerman@lemmy.blahaj.zone 16 points 19 hours ago* (last edited 19 hours ago)

Well I mean it stands to reason you're most likely arguing with paid actors using Persona Management software to have hundreds of such conversations in unison, so it's a moot point because they're being paid to prevent minds from being changed on subject X.

Honestly I feel like AI progression was just a cover for what was originally updated Persona Management where the human has to do even less to keep the consensus cracking and topic dilution ongoing.

[–] Witchfire@lemmy.world 8 points 19 hours ago (1 children)

Hey everyone look at this guy trying to make others laugh

/s

[–] yakko@feddit.uk 6 points 19 hours ago (1 children)

Ah that sweet sweet attention I would never admit to wanting. Like manna from heaven.

[–] ivanafterall@lemmy.world 2 points 3 hours ago
[–] DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works 7 points 19 hours ago (3 children)

Tbf, nobody is gonna convince me of anything now. Most of my beliefs are formed independent of the internet. From logics and some empathy.

None of the bigoted xenophobic shit aint ever gonna sway me. Nor the tankie stuff.

Lived experiences is more powerful than some texts on a screen.

[–] yakko@feddit.uk 8 points 19 hours ago (1 children)

Everyone has a latitude of openness to new beliefs. They can be narrow, but it's important to be mindful. Being entirely immovable is not only impossible, but maladaptive

[–] FaceDeer@fedia.io 3 points 18 hours ago (1 children)

That said, it's a rare thing when a single argument is able to shift a person's opinion. Opinions form over time and change over time, nobody ever reads just one manifesto and goes "oh, I guess I'm a communist now."

[–] yakko@feddit.uk 2 points 18 hours ago

That could be a bird's-eye view of social judgment theory, basically the idea that successive pitches to a person's latitude of non-commitment are the mechanism by which firm stances can change over time.

[–] canofcam@lemmy.world 3 points 5 hours ago (1 children)

nobody is gonna convince me of anything now

This is part of the problem. If two people engage in open debate and neither of them can be convinced to change their minds about anything, then what exactly is the point?

I will listen to people and engage with their arguments, and remain openminded to be convinced. Life isn't that simple and believing you know all the answers is naive.

[–] DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works 2 points 4 hours ago

Problem is I read comments from 3 separate users in the past few days that literally got banned within 24 hours for being a LLM bot lmao (read the modlogs, its getting crazier these days)

[–] Qwel@sopuli.xyz 1 points 4 hours ago (1 children)

I would guess you didn't live in Gaza, but you still have an idea of what is happening there. Of course if you did live there, it would likely take precedence over what you read about it.

You don't actually need to take decisions about Gaza, so you could just ignore it. But you will need to take a decision about a cancer you've never lived before, and you will need to to use other people's experiences about it to make that decision.

You are currently living by the "don't put your fingers in the socket" rule, and you (likely) never tried it. You (likely) don't understand why, or how bad it would actually be, but you're following it, and it is a good thing for everyone involved.

Using other people's expressed experience is absolutely necessary for your everyday life, and you will do it even if you don't want to. Figuring out exactly how to deal with the mistakes and contradictions and lies gets complicated, and is a fundamental subject in science

[–] DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works 3 points 4 hours ago (1 children)

The comment I replied to:

Really trying to change anyone’s mind online

Key word: "online"

If I met them in person, I'd be more inclined to listen to them.

[–] Qwel@sopuli.xyz 1 points 51 minutes ago (1 children)

Oh, why so? Less likely to be a bot?

[–] Inkstainthebat@pawb.social 1 points 10 minutes ago* (last edited 10 minutes ago)

I think it's just easier to be honest and not lie to someone to their face in real life. The ability to have your facial expressions be read and having to respond in a timely manner or admit you're not sure is much more likely to make people argue in an honest manner

[–] Triumph@fedia.io 5 points 19 hours ago (2 children)
[–] yakko@feddit.uk 3 points 19 hours ago

Okay, ready? Everyone point at them and laugh.

[–] Warl0k3@lemmy.world 2 points 19 hours ago

Good, that was our goal all along!

[–] MrFinnbean@lemmy.world 4 points 3 hours ago (1 children)

I used to think peoples minds can be changed on internet, but your comment made see that i was wrong.

[–] yakko@feddit.uk 2 points 3 hours ago

No you didn't!

[–] Kissaki@feddit.org 4 points 4 hours ago (1 children)

My mind has been changed at times, from online discussions. At least adding to my considerations and thoughts.

I hope I'm not considered evil though, maybe this comment was directed only at that kind of subset.

[–] yakko@feddit.uk 3 points 4 hours ago (1 children)

You don't sound evil, do we know each other? Lmfao don't worry about it

[–] Kissaki@feddit.org 2 points 4 hours ago

No, we don't. Just a cheeky reply because your comment broadly said "anyone online". :)